What’s wrong with me? Have you ever asked yourself that question? This used to be such a prevalent question of mine. Throughout my entire life I felt as if I was different from most people, and therefore my assumption was to believe that there was something wrong with me, and everyone else out there was normal, at least they all seemed normal to me.
I worked so hard at trying to be like everyone else, so I would feel like I could “fit in” and feel “normal” like the rest of the world.
I couldn’t understand why I wouldn’t be able to do things, or think about things, or interact with people the way I saw others do it so naturally, which made me lack in confidence.
I truly felt like I belonged to a very rare group of people who wouldn’t be accepted by others if they truly let themselves show.
But then something amazing happened. Through coaching, I was able to discover who I really was, and then gain some insights as to how my personality traits and overall behaviours were just a very normal and typical way of behaving of people like me, which in fact there were many, called introverts.
You always hear about people being different, coming in all sorts of shapes. However when applied to yourself, how many of you do you actually take the time to find out who you really are?
At the most basic level, this world is shared by a mix of extroverts and introverts. It is fair to say that extroversion is a more desirable personality trait than introversion. But in a world where nothing is black and white, we need to find where in the middle we stand, and then learn how we can use our own personality traits and behaviours to our full advantage.
In learning to understand who I was, I felt an immediate sense of relief, validation and empowerment to use this newly gained knowledge to my advantage. Nowadays I embrace my way of being and I have created a structure and ways of interacting with the world at large in a way that keeps me inspired, energised and committed to continue to grow and develop my own natural abilities.
And the best of all, in knowing who I am, I no longer feel like there is something wrong with me; on the contrary, it is thanks to being who I am, that I am able to do what I do, and that makes me feel special. So how are you special?
Chances are that no matter who you are, or where you come from, you will at times feel like you are the only person in the planet who feels different, or wrong. But in reality, we all feel like that at one point or another. Embrace your uniqueness and individuality, move away from the crowd and become the resourceful and creative person you are meant to become.
And for those of you introverts out there (regardless of the degree of introversion), let me share an article by Karl Kingdom, which will hopefully shed some light and validation of your own.
This article is not meant to provide a one sided opinion on the subject at all, just provide light and gain a deeper understanding of our reasons for interacting with the world. In knowing the reasoning behind our behaviours, we are able to then become proactive and engage with the world in a more efficient way, one that re-energizes us, rather than drain and confuse us.
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